I wanted to write on something else this time but after a few things that happen to the people around me, I decided “Secret to Happiness” would be a better topic.
I couldn’t sleep long this morning and was lying in my bed thinking about why people are not happy and what do they mean, when they say “I am UNHAPPY”. Frankly, I keep saying this quite often too. Then after awhile of pondering I started thinking why did I use those words. What was I UNHAPPY with myself?
It was then I knew the state I was in, I started making a list of thing that I thought that made me unhappy so I can go and fix them if they were within my control. Once I made the list, I went past them again like a cute, blonde beautiful waitress in a restaurant (Now, I know what you guys would say so just forget it!!). It was then I knew how stupid I was and how I was measuring my happiness and stress.
After thinking a bit more about this when I was in the shower, I understood the real meaning of “Happiness is a State of mind”. We all were taught that happiness is an abstract word like love during our school days, but somehow people tend to quantify happiness with money. I was doing exactly the same as well (not that I am out of it completely. It’s a real hard job). The likes of Tendulkars, Dravids and the Indian cricket greats; they definitely have the money to be happy. Now trust me think this hard guys “Are they really happy every moment?” They work hard to be where they are, but if they manage to commit a single mistake, the mistake is seen under a microscope magnified and we say “that’s it you idiot give way to others who can”. We don’t think about what they have achieved so far, it is impossible to achieve what they have if they were and are not the best in what they do.
But I don’t mean to say Money is nothing. I am definitely not a fool if you guys think that’s what I am trying to say here. Money is required but you don’t need a lot of money to stay happy. Now this is the most important question “How much money do we need to be happy?” hahaha I wish I could put a number here. But it is this number that defines our lifestyles.
This is the actual fact, the more you expect the expensive your happiness is. These two are inversely proportional.
Life has taught me loads of things and it has also taught me to lower my expectation, so I can push myself into the state of happiness. I have been doing this without my knowledge till today. There is a wall hanger in my home back in India which has the verses from Bhagavath Geetha which mean:
I couldn’t sleep long this morning and was lying in my bed thinking about why people are not happy and what do they mean, when they say “I am UNHAPPY”. Frankly, I keep saying this quite often too. Then after awhile of pondering I started thinking why did I use those words. What was I UNHAPPY with myself?
It was then I knew the state I was in, I started making a list of thing that I thought that made me unhappy so I can go and fix them if they were within my control. Once I made the list, I went past them again like a cute, blonde beautiful waitress in a restaurant (Now, I know what you guys would say so just forget it!!). It was then I knew how stupid I was and how I was measuring my happiness and stress.
After thinking a bit more about this when I was in the shower, I understood the real meaning of “Happiness is a State of mind”. We all were taught that happiness is an abstract word like love during our school days, but somehow people tend to quantify happiness with money. I was doing exactly the same as well (not that I am out of it completely. It’s a real hard job). The likes of Tendulkars, Dravids and the Indian cricket greats; they definitely have the money to be happy. Now trust me think this hard guys “Are they really happy every moment?” They work hard to be where they are, but if they manage to commit a single mistake, the mistake is seen under a microscope magnified and we say “that’s it you idiot give way to others who can”. We don’t think about what they have achieved so far, it is impossible to achieve what they have if they were and are not the best in what they do.
But I don’t mean to say Money is nothing. I am definitely not a fool if you guys think that’s what I am trying to say here. Money is required but you don’t need a lot of money to stay happy. Now this is the most important question “How much money do we need to be happy?” hahaha I wish I could put a number here. But it is this number that defines our lifestyles.
This is the actual fact, the more you expect the expensive your happiness is. These two are inversely proportional.
Life has taught me loads of things and it has also taught me to lower my expectation, so I can push myself into the state of happiness. I have been doing this without my knowledge till today. There is a wall hanger in my home back in India which has the verses from Bhagavath Geetha which mean:
“Whatever happened in the past, happened for the best;
whatever is happening, is happening for the best;
whatever will happen in future, will happen for the best.
Do not repent the past, do not worry for future,
concentrate on your present.
What did you own, that makes you cry on losing?
What did you bring, that you fear losing?
What did you create, that you fear its destruction?
Whatever belongs to you today, belonged to someone else yesterday
and
it will belong to some one else tomorrow. “
--Bhagavath Geetha.
whatever is happening, is happening for the best;
whatever will happen in future, will happen for the best.
Do not repent the past, do not worry for future,
concentrate on your present.
What did you own, that makes you cry on losing?
What did you bring, that you fear losing?
What did you create, that you fear its destruction?
Whatever belongs to you today, belonged to someone else yesterday
and
it will belong to some one else tomorrow. “
--Bhagavath Geetha.
Overall the more you expect, the more you are in the risk of getting depressed.
Having said all these I also want to add this "No Dream is too Big but remember small steps at a time". Also don’t forget to share a small piece of your success with those who need it.
Having said all these I also want to add this "No Dream is too Big but remember small steps at a time". Also don’t forget to share a small piece of your success with those who need it.
